Are you having a difficult time with your parents listening to you? If your senior parents are refusing help, it’s more common than you think – Surprisingly, 77% of adult children believe their parents are stubborn about taking their advice or getting help with daily tasks. You might be doing all you can to try and improve your parents’ quality of life, but they won’t accept your help or advice. Lucky for you the situation isn’t hopeless!
1. Take Their Motivations Into Account
Aging can be an overwhelming process for many, especially when dementia or other mental health issues come into account. Taking the time to consider how your parents process everything can help in communication with them.
Your parents independence is extremely important to them…. So, ask yourself – Are they acting this way because they feel like they’re losing their independence, dealing with depression or dementia? Could they be acting out because they’re afraid of something?
Identifying the root cause, or causes, of your parents’ behavior can help you identify the best way to make positive changes.
2. Be Accepting of Them
Even though you’re just trying to do the best for your parents, you can’t control them. They have the right to make decisions on their own, even if they might not be the best decisions. It might be against your better judgement, but accepting this can lower your stress and improve your relationship with them.
3. What’s Worth Fighting For
Nagging doesn’t work with anyone, so in the long run it’s better to choose what the top priorities are. Focus on the most important issues, such as matters concerning your parents health and safety. It’s more likely that your parents will take your concerns more seriously if you don’t bombard them with several concerns at once. Take your time and show that you care in a patient and understanding way.
4. Don’t Belittle Your Parents
You might feel that things have switched when it comes to the roles of parent and child, but you should still treat your senior parent with respect. Remember not to treat your parents like a child, seniors should be autonomous.
5. Discuss Future Plans with Senior Loved Ones
Even if your parent has not been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease or dementia, living with any kind of memory loss can be very difficult for seniors to deal with or even acknowledge. Helping your parents remember important dates eases frustration for everyone.
Growing older is filled with challenges — for seniors and their children. What do you do when an elderly parent refuses needed care? Ironically, you should listen. By paying attention to your parents’ needs and heeding the advice of health professionals, you can make dealing with aging parents less stressful for everyone — even if Mom and Dad don’t always listen to you.
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